Realize it or not every person seeks perfection in every area of life. We may never find perfection in all those things we want, but we get as close as we can. If I buy a new car, I want it to be perfect. If I can’t afford a new one, I want one nearly perfect. In marriage you will never find the perfect yoke fellow. But be encouraged God is able to bring into your life someone who seems in your eyes to be nearly perfect in every way!
There are two decisions that nearly every man or woman will face in life: with whom do I spend eternity and with whom do I spend time. More precisely how do you choose a Christian yoke fellow for eternity and time.
When you decide to put your trust in Jesus as your personal Saviorthe issue of eternity is settled. You have found the perfect yoke fellow. When you choose the one to marry the issue of time is settled. Our focus here is to provide guidelines for marriage and the true yoke fellow. What do you look for in a life mate.
Question one: is this person a Christian? If the answer is no, you should look further. The Bible is very clear “ Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness …..” (2nd Corinthians 6:14)If the answer to question one Is yes then go to question two.
Question two: would you be interested in studying the Bible with me? If the answer is yes, the two of you should read and study the Bible together. If the answer is no, perhaps you should look further for your true yoke fellow.
Every person has three dimensions: (1) as others see you, (2) as you see you and (3) as God sees you. An understanding of these three dimensions is essential to the growth and success of the follower of Jesus.
How do other people see you? They see you as attractive, well-groomed, pleasant, a devoted believer, and pleasant to be around. They see you as one who exhibits the fruit of Galatians 5:22,23 ” But the fruit of the Spirit is love, Joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control …..” Your response is positive; you are pleased with how people see you.
How do you see you? You see a person who quite often does not love others, who has happiness with very little joy, who struggles to find peace of heart, who lacks patience with certain people and who lacks self-control in many areas. I could list more, but you understand where I’m going.
This contradiction is expressed by the apostle Paul in Romans 7:15,18. ” For I do not understand my own actions. For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate. For I have the desire to do what it right but not the ability to carry it out.”
Finally, how does God see you? He sees you as one he loves very much. He loved you so much that he came into this world as a man, to live as a man, and to die as a man. He went into the pawn shop of life and purchased your ticket with his own blood. You now belong to Him. This truth is presented throughout the entire Bible and is summarized In First Corinthians 1:30,31: ” And because of him you are in Christ Jesus, who became to us wisdom from God, righteousness and sanctification and redemption, so that, as it is written, Let the one who boasts, boast in the Lord.”
Here are your instructions: (1) graciously accept how others see you (2) vigorously reject or correct the old you and (3) faithfully live as Jesus empowers you. And remember we are all in the same boat!
“We have this as a sure and steadfast anchor of the soul….” Hebrews 6:19
By definition an anchor is that which holds a boat of any size secure in a lake, a river or an ocean from drifting onto the rocks or into other problems. For our purposes today we choose to define the anchor of the soul. The soul In Scripture is the real you. The question then is what is the anchor for your soul\ boat of life? What is it in your life that gives stability in the everyday pressures of living?
For many people the anchor is money. They work 12-14 maybe 20 hours a day to secure money. As the bank account balance Increases, they feel more secure.
For others the anchor is found in property. The average person spends 30% of total income to buy and maintain property. You can add Another eight to 10% for transportation and another 10% to maintain your health.
Perhaps the most common anchor is retirement income. A person should or have a plan that equals 70 to 80% of gross income for retirement. However, unless your money is well placed and protected you could still lose it all.
The issue is not what you have or how much you have, but what you do not have. Every person was created to love God and serve him alone. The Bible is very clear “You cannot serve God and mammon.” (Matthew 6:24) By one definition mammon means money.
If you possess all that which is noted above, I am happy for you. But if you have all these things and still do not havepeace in your heart, God is waiting to help you. I have friends who are wealthy and others who are poor, but they all have that peace which money cannot buy. Your Heavenly Father wants you to have this peace regardless of income.
He alone can give you that anchor and peace. If you have everything, but you do not have peace, I encourage you to go to your pastor or close Christian friend and share your heart about your lack of peace.
For further study I recommend that you read carefully Luke 12: 22-34.